A King with a defect in one eye and in one leg asked all the painters to draw a beautiful portrait of his. But no one was ready to draw, as how to show him beautiful with a defect in one eye and a defect in a leg.
One painter, however, agreed and drew a classic portrait of the king. It was such a fantastic painting that everyone was surprised. He painted the King aiming for a deer in a hunt, targeting with one eye closed & a leg bent for it. End of story.
But a question pops up for each of us to answer: “Can we all paint others like this, hiding their weakness and highlighting their strengths…???
Just as we say ‘love at first sight’, we also do a ‘judgement at first sight’ when we come across people. It is our nature to scrutinize persons in front of us, to figure out if we can trust or be friendly with them or if we should be on our guard. In a fraction of a second we go on to make judgements and stereotype people based on nothing but ignorance.
What we normally fail to do is to actually take the extra few seconds to get a sense of what’s inside other people – especially their good qualities, because it is easy to pick out people’s faults. Believe me, there is always more to someone than meets the eye. Tagging a person as good or bad, even based on their actions, may not always be true, because we do not know the reason behind their actions. For instance, the word ‘thief’ is negative in itself. But haven’t we heard about ‘a good thief’ who steals to help the less fortunate?
Well, there is an option for us to look into the brighter side of people and situations with an optimistic mind. This, in actuality, helps us to live a better, happier life, because as we become more proficient in finding positive aspects in other people, we get better at seeing positive aspects of ourselves. I love the saying, “instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” This outlook doesn’t change the reality of the rose bush. But yes, it does help us to love the rose bush.
Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to see the good in others. Yet it is not impossible at all, with a little bit of work. And as I already pointed out, it is worthwhile as it helps see the good in ourselves. There is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But we can choose what things to focus on. Focusing on the good in people is definitely a useful choice, as it makes life easier for us, as our world and relationships become more pleasant and optimistic.
Seeing good in others sprouts from the greater realization that I am not perfect myself. Each of us has had positive and negative people and circumstances that have moulded and made us who we are today, different from anyone else. Seeing the good in people it becomes easier to motivate ourselves to be of service to them. By being of service to people we not only make their lives better, but over time we tend to get in return what we give. And the people we help may feel more inclined to help other people. So we, together, create a vicious circle of positive change that grows and changes societies.
People say, “Find good people and leave bad ones.” But I think it should be, “Find the good in people and ignore the bad in them.” No one is perfect!