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IT’S OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAME THE SPOILED-GEN

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I am sure all of us saw and read about how some unruly youngsters drove a jeep into the campus during Onam celebrations at a Govt Engineering College in Thiruvananthapuram and a young student lost her life in the incident. The principal of the college admits that the teachers are not able to control the students who break rules and regulations.

It is easier to drop the subject terming it as an isolated incident. But then, the reality is different. A few days later, Medias flashed photos and videos of students at other colleges riding on trucks, JCBs and hired fire engines in the pretext of Onam celebrations. Luckily, no other tragedies happened!

This should prompt all of us to introspect what our kids are growing up to be! If the situation of the educational institutions is such that the faculty are not able to control the students’ unruly behaviour, I believe it is because of the highhandedness of Student Unions with the support of political parties. Aren’t these political ‘leaders’ who defend such barbarous actions, declaring it as part of students’ democratic and individual right, in reality destroying the future of these youngsters? These students are mere puppets in the hands of the political parties with vested interests!

No use of blaming the strayed young generation for their waywardness (and particularly I don’t want to generalize and say that the whole young generation is spoilt. I mean only those who deserve to be entitled likewise). No use of blaming politicians or films that are blamed to set negative trends. The primary responsibility of raising children as good individuals and patriotic citizens lies with the elders – parents, teachers, religious and other social leaders. I’ve heard many grandparents and parents lamenting about their kids not obeying them. Well, who else is responsible? I am sure children who grow up in an atmosphere where parents lead exemplary life and teach them good manners and civic sense will undoubtedly grow up to be good persons themselves.

But in today’s nuclear families, when it comes to keeping our only prince or princess happy parents tend to be too permissive and not set practical limits; and over protective to the point of not letting kids to face the consequence of their actions. These kids grow up to be selfish individuals who lack compassion, sensitivity and civic sense.

In modern homes power has shifted from parents to child. When we were kids, parents were in charge. Becoming an adult was seen as something desirable, our time to shine and take charge. But somehow over the years, kids have been given more and more of the power until now it seems that they’re the ones in control, hence the directions given by parents, teachers and elders are of little or no value to them. When confronted, they become restless or depressed.

A solution to this predicament is to teach kids a sense of responsibility. When I posted a news-clipping on this topic on my Facebook wall I got some enlightened comments: “Parents should be with children more time, prioritizing between children and money. Teachers should fulfil their primary duty of guiding the students through their student life for a responsible life ahead, and not academic subjects alone. Politicians should stop USING the youth for politics”.

To that comment I would like to add: Instead of making it easy for our kids to get everything they want, we need to let them experience failure and disappointment from time to time. That’s part of real life and it’s hard, but it’s a lesson everyone needs to learn.

If we (and I’m including myself here) keep doing too much for our kids instead of holding them accountable for their actions, I’m afraid the spoiling of this generation will continue. Also, the primary educational curriculum should give greater stress on training kids to be mannered and empathetic, so that they grow up to be individuals who uphold honesty, respect and integrity.

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23 Comments on "IT’S OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAME THE SPOILED-GEN"


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Abdul Nazir K
3 years 4 months ago

Yes I want to join the discussion

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KENNY JOSE
3 years 7 months ago

TODAY`S CHILDREN ARE ROT SPOILT AND OVERPROTOTCED THEY HAVE NOT KNOWN HARDSHIP IN LIFE CHILDREN SHOULD KNOW HARDSHIP AND SHOULD NOT BE OVERPROCTECTED. A STRICTER AND DISCIPLINED UPBRING IS NEEDED TOGETHER WITH DISIPLINE . SOME PUBLICATIONS, PUBLISHED FROM KOTTAYAM ADVISES PARENTS TO SHOWER LOVE ON KIDS AND PARENTS SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH CHILDREN THESE ARE ALL WRONG CONCEPTS CONCEPTS.STRICTNESS IS THE ONLY WAY OUT TOGETHER WITH DISICIPLINE.

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Drisya N C
3 years 7 months ago

True said, dear sir… parents has no control over their children and they don’t know actually what their children’s activities. parents are over caring and the children became selfish when they grow. Today’s educational system only gives importance to the academic subject. They get high scores in academics and fails in the real life. Good and standard education only gives social status and high profile career to a person and not make them a good moral person… If this condition continues, the next generation will be very dangerous than today’s.

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Reshma Helen
3 years 7 months ago

Absolutely right. The prime culprits are the parents & teachers who don’t give proper guidance to the children, thus raising them up as irresponsible citizens.

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Varghese Chakkalakkal
3 years 7 months ago

In previous generation there were grant parents and mothers at homes …….now there are only some mummies at home and most of them cannot see eye to eye with the father and grown up children …… they are empowered mummies…. and fathers have no authority over the children ……. most of these mummy’s children are the spoiled ones …. study these children and you will see most of them are from failed families….

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Deepesh
3 years 7 months ago

The behavior of students from generations to generations are deteriorating..That’s a fact. But if we think of the root cause of it, we can understand that its a reflection of whats happening in the society as a whole. The society has become money centric. Success has become synonym of money and power. And in a democratic country like India, where freedom is more, where crimes can be overridden through bribe and political influence, where the country is ruled by a corrupted lot, where one need to have influence and connections for getting things done, where values dropping and lot more, whatever is happening is inevitable.If the parents and teachers cannot show by living a life, which role models for the younger generation, nothing is going to change.The change has to take place in each one of us.

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SOORAJ S
3 years 7 months ago

good one.

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Rajan Mathews
3 years 7 months ago

Thank you Sir for writing on one of the most crucial topics.
From younger ages children should have responsibilities according to their age, at home, in their community / society everywhere. Now the situation is that very few children does anything other than the so called study related tasks. Parents wants them to score in exams, even those who are not good in studies also don’t have any tasks for themselves. They eat and live at the cost of somebody’s sweat (whether its parents, brother / sister or relatives, sometimes even the financial support they receive from govt. or other agencies).
In those days when youngsters were taking responsibilities in household works, farming / agriculture etc. their mentality was entirely different. Of course I am one from that generation who was known for my hard work and commitment to my family and society. Make them to do some physical work, at any cost otherwise don’t just feed / support them.
If we take anyone who succeeded in life, they were doing so many things other than their studies while in younger ages. Let us not keep eyes closed towards realities.

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Pratap Alukal
3 years 7 months ago

The reason why people like me are scared of returning to Kerala is only because there are no values left.My late father was a strict disciplinarian-he being a teacher himself.University first in MA (Mathematics)from Madras University in 1939 and starting his teaching career at St:Josephs College,Tiruchirapalli he went over to Madras Loyola and finally retired from NIT,Calicut.So all of us were very good in studies (all six of my siblings are in US).I joined Federal Bank in 1977 and on transfer to Mumbai in 2001 relocated here ever since.Since our close relatives are in Kerala we have to go over for functions like marriages and funerals-but every time we have stepped into the State we have had to suffer “Bandhs”,Hartals and what not.If earlier it was always the Marxist party who whose monopoly were these criminal activities today every party has inherited these “virtues”.Today I can thank the Lord for helping me make that decision in 2001.My daughter passed engg:from Mumbai University and my son engg:and MBA from IIM.Both are very obedient,pious and caring for the other.I am sure if they were in Kerala they would have been found wanting in their career and most importantly in their lives.The leaders of all political parties are corrupt especially those of the Marxist party.Cannot believe Pinrayi Vijayans son is studying in England and Kodiyeris son who has numerous criminal cases against him is Vice President in the R.P.Pillai group.Kerala will improve only if all political party activities are banned forever.

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Anonymous
3 years 7 months ago

Correct. But what if parents too are showing wrong path. In Kerala we have a media culture that are cushioned to capture easy news.

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Anonymous
3 years 7 months ago

Money, Muscle power, & face book publicity makes them to ruin to a great extend. Give respect & get respect is not found in children & guardians. In olden days parents are the real role model to a child.If our children loves us. it is really a god’s gift to parents from their child.

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jjacob
3 years 7 months ago

Very well said Sir.

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Nicky Mathew
3 years 7 months ago

Sir, Now a days I notice that my classmates can’t(its not don’t, they just can’t) use word “please” when they want something, neither do they “thank” and acknowledge when someone helps. This is because they take thing for granted due to the choices that they got as they grew up. This is my opinion and this is what I feel. Please do let me know what you think about my opinion.

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Anonymous
3 years 7 months ago

well said, sir

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sithara
3 years 7 months ago

sir u said the truth…surely no need of blaming new gen only.v only leading them into a NEW GENERATION??

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Asish
3 years 7 months ago

Students are nowadays influenced too much by movies. Facebook posts and Wattsap communications just increases the influence level. It is pathetic to see these kids gets the feeling of being grown up physically, while the truth is they are irresponsible and immature. Maturity does not come after watching a movie or growing beards or wearing black shirt.
I think parents should emphasize value of taking responsibility and idea of growing up by being compassionate and sensible towards society. I wish our film industry understand that their movies can make a good or bad vibration to our youngsters. May be they can make movies which gives our kids a sense of direction and taking up responsibilities, rather than just focusing on making revenue alone. More movies should come which takes up social problems and give a sense of responsibility to our youngsters which their parents are not capable of conveying.

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Atmaram Melepat
3 years 7 months ago

Please don’t blame movies for these. At least in CET, students are far ahead. These celebrations are a tradition here well before these movies. Not just the onam celebrations but many other more “grand” ones are celebrated. From my experience of studying there, I could say that new concepts or styles can be adopted from CET for future films.”Ban it” is not the solution either. The rules should be strictly implemented. A culture of following rules should be developed. As kochouseph chittilappilly sir said they children should be thought manners at an early age.They should be matured enough to differentiate b/w what all can be done and what all should not be.

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Abdul Nazir
3 years 4 months ago

CET incident proved that mere technical education dehumanize man, Increased reports of ragging in brutal modes are common on the campuses. In most cases money is looted from junior students.most of the parents are seen careless about their wards who naturally don’t obey the teachers. Student politics gives protection to such irregular doers.Some parents stand for in favor of students even in cases of violation of Institutional rules. Strict discipline should be maintained in the campuses along with opportunities to develop good manners and characters, humanities subjects be made part of curriculum for Engineering courses apart from equipping teachers as counselors to guide them properly.

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Nick Joe
3 years 7 months ago

That is such an enlightening insight sir. As you said, many of us bypass such incidents, blaming it on the new generation… Blame it on us, right!

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Agi Anna joshua
3 years 7 months ago

the letter posted by a faculty member of CET after the incident is worth reading…I am also an alumni of CET , 1989 batch but our onam celbrations in college were way different..a pookklam in front of the class, girls coming to college in sari and a sadhya ta the nearby restaurant….

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Anonymous
3 years 7 months ago

the letter posted by a faculty member of CET after the incident is worth reading…

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Anonymous
3 years 7 months ago

It is the side effect of granting unwanted subsidies, no one want to work. Everybody is getting everything in subsidized rates, thus enjoying live in a distructive manner. All blame goes to political parties.

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Abdul Nazir k
3 years 4 months ago

Students Engineering colleges actually don’t know the severity of competition waiting them in the job market in future interestingly their teachers also seem to be unaware of the situation,only 15 to 19% of graduates get a placement after the completion of course others lack professional expertise and employable skills are kept away.If the teachers have made students aware of these facts guided them to libraries, labs and firms engaging them creatively regardless of syllabus they should not tend to inhuman acts

 
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