Once, a scientist was strolling around the garden. As he sat down to rest for a while, he noticed a cocoon. He loved butterflies and had a craze for its wonderful combination of colours. He also knew that the butterfly comes out of its cocoon after hours of struggle.
As he sat observing it, he was fascinated to see movement from inside. Looking carefully, he noticed a tiny opening in the cocoon. It meant that the caterpillar had transformed into a beautiful butterfly and was trying to make its way out. He decided to sit over and watch how it would come out of the cocoon. Sitting there for a while, eagerly waiting to see the beautiful butterfly come out, he was slowly losing patience. The butterfly was struggling to break the shell for hours.
Being a man of compassion, (and impatience), he decided to help the butterfly. He then carefully and meticulously tweaked the cocoon to make a larger opening for the butterfly and removed the remaining cocoon. To his great joy the butterfly emerged without any struggle. He waited eagerly to watch the butterfly fly with its beautiful wings.
He thought, at any moment the swollen body of the butterfly would shrink and it would expand its wings and fly high. Unfortunately, neither the wings expanded nor the swollen body reduced. The butterfly just crawled around with withered wings and huge body. It was never able to fly. Being a learned man, it didn’t take much time for the scientist to realize that he wasn’t actually ‘helping’ the butterfly, rather was hurting it by his good intentions. The butterfly was supposed to struggle through the tiny opening of the cocoon, so that the fluid is transferred out of its body into its wings, making it strong and ready to fly.
This is something that we should realize in our life too. Hardships and challenges in the past are the foundation stones that determine how strong and prepared we are to face the present and future. Struggling is an important part of any growth experience. Looking back, my life wasn’t a bed of roses during my childhood or during the years of youth. The hardships appear tough, but they were actually workshops on practical skills. These practical sessions often resulted in minor injuries like burnt hands or cut fingers. Elders usually shrugged off such small problems saying that it was all part of learning through experience.
In business too, I believe that if there is no crisis, we will never think of alternatives. I came across many difficult situations. But when I dared to take challenges positively, there was better result. There is definitely a solution for every problem.
Nowadays parents struggle hard to keep their children away from any difficulties whatsoever. Everything is done for them. And a good majority of them pamper their kids in to laziness. Parents are of the idea that kids shouldn’t be bothered with anything except getting good marks. So a huge portion of life is closed out from the children, which the earlier generations lived through. It doesn’t help the children in any way. I believe, this is one of the reasons why we hear news like students committing suicide for scoring low marks in exams or because the mother scolded or the father did not gratify his/her wish immediately.
Just like the butterfly, a tough, wild and carefree childhood is important in character and personality formation. It’s their right. Let them have it. Even the perfect egg has to be broken for a new life to begin..!